Parents are often exhausted with their child’s temper tantrums, but they are a part of your child’s natural development. Try these tricks to deal with them in this story
A tantrum is essentially a reaction when children cannot control a particular situation normally; that could be done by communicating or exhibiting their inability to deal with the problem. When it becomes too overwhelming for them, they take refuge in unleashing their unhappiness in a rather dramatic way. It could be through crying, yelling, stomping their feet, punching the wall, lying on the floor and even hitting the parent. The child knows that his attention-seeking behaviour could give him an edge over their parents. Therefore he begins to rely upon unpleasant behaviour through similar episodes frequently.
However, a child is not to be blamed for such tactics. Instead, it is a learned response that allows him to control his parents. It becomes challenging for the parents to deal with their children’s anger, but some ways will enable them to unlearn the response and handle a situation maturely.
Let us look at some ideas that could help you in controlling the tantrums of your child.
Ignore: Children are very smart. If they notice that their tantrum is having no effect on you, they shall pick your clue that their behaviour is unacceptable to you, and they can't have their way around with you with this tactic.
Don’t get angry: Parents often lose their cool when their child reacts violently. However, it wouldn't help if you scold, lecture or argue with him. You will unnecessarily aggravate the situation. Instead, you could have a conversation after the child has calmed down.
Distract the child: If you notice that the child is about to start a temper tantrum, you could distract them with something more interesting like a toy or a game.
Use positive reinforcement: When your child becomes calm after the emotional outburst, you could praise them for behaving maturely. Youcould also give small rewards for their good behaviour to negotiate with them.
Keep them safe: Do try to ensure that there are no unsafe objects around the kid. For example, you could hold the child or bring him to a safer place where they cannot hurt themselves.
If you notice a regular pattern of meltdowns in your child, then there may be something that demands your immediate attention. Most children are pretty predictable in displaying their unhappiness in situations like doing homework, eating, bedtime, ending their playtime, etc. However, if you are unable to understand the trigger point of a tantrum, there could be some serious issues that could be a result of abuse, neglect, social anxiety or a disturbing experience. Therefore, you must address these issues immediately.
