Six Signs That Indicate You Are Self-Gaslighting and You Should Stop
Do you often invalidate your feelings? Luckily, you can break out of this habit of self-gaslighting.
Are you someone who often justifies the toxic behavior of people in your life? Are you critical of yourself for being sensitive? Do you question your worth and abilities based on people’s perceptions of you? If you nodded in agreement, you are most likely gaslighting yourself. Below are some signs that suggest you are self-gaslighting, and you should stop ASAP!
You doubt your judgment.
You spend a significant amount of time doubting yourself, not believing your intuition, and not paying attention to your inner voice. Not believing your judgment may result in trust issues and deep insecurity. It becomes impossible to trust others when you don’t trust yourself. To eliminate self-doubt and insecurity, you have to develop a positive relationship with yourself.
You negate your feelings.
All your emotional reactions are valid. You should never invalidate your feelings or view them as an overreaction. Do not twist your reality by completely disregarding how a situation or person made you feel.
You always try to convince yourself that the situation isn’t too bad
This stems from the problem of doubting your own memory. If you had an abusive family as a child, and your siblings and parents deny the reality of certain events from your past, you might get into the habit of convincing yourself that the adversities you faced were not too bad and that maybe everyone deals with similar situations.
Minimizing achievements
If you constantly undermine your achievements, it may be a humbling experience for a while, but it might make your achievements appear small. You should remember that no achievement is petty.
You always blame yourself for everything.
Do you feel things would have worked in your favor if you weren’t needy or sensitive? Or your lover wouldn’t have parted ways with you if you were a better cook or housekeeper? Do not allow such self-gaslighting thoughts to convince you that everything is your fault.
You cover up others’ bad behavior toward you.
Instead of identifying a person’s toxic behavior, you justify their actions by blaming yourself. Do not make excuses for people who are hurting you or causing you harm in any other way. This gaslighting behavior stems from the abusive behavior of another person and can induce signs of self-gaslighting.
Do not deny your reality or doubt your version of events. Take control of your mind and give yourself the love you deserve.
